jessica valenti

annfriedman: New golden age! Looks just like the old golden...

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:32:11 -0400

New golden age! Looks just like the old golden age.

I was interviewed for this story. Dying to know whether any of my quotes made it into the magazine.

Also, LOLZ.

megangreenwell:

It’s a new golden age of magazines because white bros.

coverjunkie:

PORT (UK)

All you mag lovers…
take a look at this line-up of Editor In Chiefs, all ace:
GQ’s Jim Nelson
Wired’s Scott Dadich
Vanity Fair’s Graydon Carter
New York Times Mag Hugo Lindgren
Bloomberg Businessweeks’s Josh Tyrangiel
New York’s Adam Moss

“The importance of Print Media”
Yeah that time again… new PORT Magazine

ANDREW GOLIS: Joining The Atlantic

Mon, 10 Jun 2013 14:43:58 -0400

ANDREW GOLIS: Joining The Atlantic: golis: I’m excited to announce that next month I’ll be joining...

pangurbanthewhite: carrierudzinski: This is really important....

Mon, 10 Jun 2013 13:47:28 -0400

pangurbanthewhite:

carrierudzinski:

This is really important. We’ve all seen hundreds of Drug PSAs… how many times have we seen this?

Well played. I did a genuine double take.

Great campaign on bystander intervention/rape

"Don’t feed the trolls: it’s probably the most common refrain in online discussions, especially when..."

Mon, 03 Jun 2013 12:28:05 -0400

“Don’t feed the trolls: it’s probably the most common refrain in online discussions,...

The “punishments” given to campus rapists. Via.

Fri, 31 May 2013 11:15:00 -0400

The “punishments” given to campus rapists. Via.

lemonsweetie: Let me tell you a thing, about an amazing man...

Fri, 31 May 2013 11:06:56 -0400

lemonsweetie:

Let me tell you a thing, about an amazing man named Patrick Stewart

I went to Comicpalooza this weekend and I was full of nervous energy as I was standing in line to ask Sir Patrick Stewart a question at his panel. I first had to thank him for a speech he had given at amnesty international about domestic violence towards women . I had only seen it a few months ago but I was still dealing with my own personal experience with a similar issue, and I didn’t know what to call it. After seeing Patrick talk so personally about it I finally was able to correctly call it abuse, in my case sexual abuse that was going to quickly turn into physical abuse as well. I didn’t feel guilty or disgusting anymore. I finally didn’t feel responsible for the abuse that was put upon me. I was finally able to start my healing process and to put that part of my life behind me.

After thanking him I asked him “Besides acting, what are you most proud of that you have done in you life (that you are willing to share with us)?”. Sir Patrick told us about how he couldn’t protect his mother from abuse in his household growing up and so in her name works with an organization called Refuge for safe houses for women and children to escape from abusive house holds. Sir Patrick Stewart learned only last year that his father had actually been suffering from PTSD after he returned from the military and was never properly treated. In his father’s name he works with an organization called Combat Stress to help those soldiers who are suffering from PTSD.

They were about to move onto the next question when Sir Patrick looked at me and asked me “My Dear, are you okay?” I said yes, and that I was finally able to move on from that part of my life. He then passionately said that his mother had done nothing to provoke his father and that even if she had, violence was never, ever a choice a man should make. That it is in the power of men to stop violence towards women. The moderator then asked “Do you want a hug?”

Sir Patrick didn’t even hesitate, he smiled, hopped off the stage and came over to embrace me in a hug. Which he held me there for a long while. He told me “You never have to go through that again, you’re safe now.” I couldn’t stop thanking him. His embrace was so warm and genuine. It was two people, two strangers, supporting and giving love. And when we pulled away he looked strait in my eyes, like he was promising that. He told me to take care. And I will.

Sir Patrick Stewart is an absolute roll model for men. He is an amazing man and was so kind and full of heart. I want to let everyone know to please find help if you are in a violent or abusive house hold or relationship. There are organizations and people ready to help. I had countless people after the panel thanking me for sharing the story and asking him those questions. Many said they went through similar things. You are not alone.

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^ Here is the video of my question to Sir Patrick Stewart

Photos by Eugene Lee, Thank you

"When wives bring home more bacon than their husbands, household budgets surely may sizzle but in..."

Wed, 29 May 2013 13:34:19 -0400

“When wives bring home more bacon than their husbands, household budgets surely may sizzle but...

publius-esquire: Founding Father Pin-Ups, 2nd Ed.: Tread on Me

Wed, 29 May 2013 10:05:57 -0400

How about a little XYZ Affair?

President Booty reporting for duty

Virginia is for lovers mmm

Raid my treasury

Ratify /this/

umff

publius-esquire:

Founding Father Pin-Ups, 2nd Ed.: Tread on Me

jessbennett: womenofthe113th: Modification of the last...

Tue, 14 May 2013 11:17:37 -0400

jessbennett:

womenofthe113th:

Modification of the last infographic. Congressladies + men = still a ways to go.

Source: Office of the Clerk

This is the most beautiful infographic I’ve ever seen. Paging I Love Charts!

This is fantastic.

Elizabeth Smart and Abstinence Only Education

Mon, 06 May 2013 09:49:33 -0400

If anyone is still holding on to the idea that abstinence only education isn’t all that bad,...

"But the one thing that nature lovers don’t ever seem to ask themselves is this: Why does an innate..."

Fri, 03 May 2013 09:35:53 -0400

“But the one thing that nature lovers don’t ever seem to ask themselves is this: Why does an...

"Seriously, if we believe a 14 year old is too immature to know how to take a pill, do we really..."

Wed, 01 May 2013 12:09:36 -0400

“Seriously, if we believe a 14 year old is too immature to know how to take a pill, do we...

Came across this gem while researching a column. SEXUAL CHAOS,...

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 10:26:34 -0400

Came across this gem while researching a column. SEXUAL CHAOS, y’all.

annfriedman: In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for...

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 09:06:12 -0400

annfriedman:

In my ongoing quest for the perfect framework for understanding haters, I created The Disapproval Matrix**. (With a deep bow to its inspiration.) This is one way to separate haterade from productive feedback. Here’s how the quadrants break down:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you. If you need to amp yourself up about it, may I suggest this #BYEHATER playlist on Spotify? You’re welcome.

** I presented The Disapproval Matrix to the fine folks at MoxieCon in Chicago yesterday, and they seemed to find it useful, so I figured I’d share with the class. It was originally inspired by a question my friend Channing Kennedy submitted to my #Realtalk column at the Columbia Journalism Review.

Genius.

When Wil Wheaton reblogs a quote from an article you wrote

Thu, 18 Apr 2013 14:21:27 -0400

OMG.

"What kind of world do we live in when young men are so proud of violating unconscious girls that..."

Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:58:24 -0400

“What kind of world do we live in when young men are so proud of violating unconscious girls...

fazstreetart: D.C. via

Mon, 15 Apr 2013 12:18:40 -0400

fazstreetart:

D.C.

via

GPOY for today.

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 10:01:00 -0400

GPOY for today.

"With statements such as “as a society, we haven’t been able to eradicate our Arab..."

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:44:27 -0400

“With statements such as “as a society, we haven’t been able to eradicate our Arab...

makingsenseofthenonsense: I have said it before, and I will say...

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:40:43 -0400

makingsenseofthenonsense:

I have said it before, and I will say it again, the abortion providers who I’ve met, spoken to, and worked with, are some of the most compassionate, kind and courageous people I have ever met in my life.

From: http://www.4000yearsforchoice.com/